I found this adorable article while I was reading blogs about the season finale of Bachelorette 7. Well, okay, it’s not really an article. It’s just a list, and it’s titled “10 Things to say to a Friend Who Says “I’m So Fat!” In this post, I will be responding to a few highlights from the post.
- “Would you say that to me? Okay, so don’t say it to yourself.”
- “I think you’re hurting your feelings.”
So, you’re agreeing that they’re fat and just telling them not to admit it because it’s rude?
“Compared to what? Photoshopped magazine covers?”
Legitimately obese people are also “so fat” compared to Photoshopped magazine covers.
“You feel fat? I feel like it’s BS that we judge our bodies by how they look instead of what they can do.”
Bodies can generally do a lot more if they’re not overweight.
Okay, now that I sufficiently sound like a dick, I’ll try to add more clarity and perhaps even be constructive.
First off, if your friend is not actually fat, don’t come up with a line that may leave open the possibility that you agree with their assessment.
If they are fat… well… I realize that sometimes, people don’t want to hear the truth, and they just want to feel better about themselves. However, realistically, someone that is overweight isn’t being done much of a favor if all of their friends are reinforcing the message that it’s okay to be overweight. Aside from aesthetics, with obesity comes serious health risks, and if they want to reduce their risk of having to spend the rest of their lives measuring their blood glucose on a daily basis, they should probably consider changes in diet and exercise.
So what would I say? Well, if they’re male and have <15% body fat or female and <20%, I’d call them an asshole and tell them to F off. If they’re above that but not obese, sure, I’d probably use something in the article above (that doesn’t actually imply that I agree with their assessment of being “so fat.”) If they are actual risking their health, I’d probably ask them if they’d considered making some changes to reduce their health risks. Easier said than done, but that’s probably the right thing to do, right?